THE ULTIMATE RELIEF
You don’t have to feel ‘okay’ all the time. You don’t have to be free from resistance all the time, happy all the time, enlightened all the time, peaceful all the time.
There is no ‘all the time’ for you! You are bigger than that, less limited. You are not bound by time, nor space. You are the space for the okay and the not-okay, the acceptance and the resistance, the light and the dark, the joy and the pain.
You don’t need any fixed and unchangeable image of yourself.
You don’t need to be the enlightened guru or the spiritual warrior. You don’t need to be the peaceful one, the awakened one, the strong one, the highly evolved one, the one immune to suffering. All are limitations on your nature.
Simply be what you are, not ‘this’ one or ‘that’ one, but The One, the space for all of it. All of it!
Let life kick you off your pedestal time and time again, until you lose all interest in being on pedestals.
if you consider a woman
less pure after you’ve touched her
maybe you should take a look at your hands
I hope cardboard crack never ends.
Like the time I got really offended about a Magic player spouting homophobic slurs, racist remarks and RAPE JOKES, so I threatened to rip up his fetch lands which made EVERYONE lose their shit and freak out at me.
Moral of the story: It’s totally cool to make rape jokes in the presence of someone that has been raped but so help me fucking god if you threaten to rip my $100 Misty Rainforest I will call you a faggot on the internet.
I’ll be joining All Things Trek again this Saturday, April 19, to talk about pregnancy and motherhood in Star Trek. Also joining us will be Kathy Ferguson, who teaches in Political Science and Women’s Studies at the University of Hawaii.
Listen live at 1 p.m. Pacific/4 p.m. Eastern at http://trekradio.net/.
If you missed the last episode I did a couple of weeks ago, where we talked about the recurring child characters on Trek, you can catch up on the All Things Trek website.
Fluff rice with a fork, never stir it with a spoon.
Vaseline is the best night time eye cream on the market.
You can buy alcohol and chips with your parents’ gas station credit cards.
If you force something, you’ll break it. That could be good or bad.
It’s important to read the care tags on your clothing and follow those instructions.
Related: don’t wash and dry j. crew wool sweaters.
Changing your car’s oil is not optional.
Whatever physical objects you acquire you will one day have to put into a box and move.
You’re allowed to disagree with negative feedback.
It’s always worth reading the instruction manual.
Nostalgia, like any drug, can be a poison or a remedy.
Pets are like human friends but better in every conceivable way.
Good doctors listen more than they talk.
You can’t fix a burned roux.
Just because someone is an authority figure does not mean they are intelligent/competent/right.
Measure twice, cut once.
Get your nice jeans and dress pants tailored by a professional.
If you’re uncomfortable wearing it you will not look good.
You’re not required to drink alcohol while in a bar.
There are a few things that cure all ills: the beach, your favorite album on vinyl, and fresh garlic.
Kindness is not weakness.
Baking soda is not baking powder.
Taking Excedrin P.M. while still in public is not advisable.
Terrible people will succeed. Wonderful people will fail. The world is not fair.
Appropriate footwear is always key.
You can absolutely be too forgiving.
Real humor punches up, not down.
Reading the assigned chapters will actually help you learn the material.
There are no adults. Everyone is as clueless as you are.
Applying eyeliner well is a timeless art.
You can always leave. Awkward dates, suffocating jobs, hometowns that you outgrow, relationships that aren’t growing in the right direction.
You can always come home again.
But it won’t be the same.
Life is too short for bad books, boring movies, shitty people, and margarine.
Never underestimate the importance of eyebrows.
I’d love to see more books where the characters get together earlier in the story. While the yearning portions of books are lovely and make us flip their pages, I’d love to see more stories where healthy romantic relationships are depicted. Where the curtain isn’t dropped with the suggestion of coupling up = happily ever after. Novels that take us past that point and depict a young couple working out some of their early insecurities and issues; that show us the romance and heartache of settling into a relationship. Like the moment when you’ve hung up on your boyfriend/girlfriend for the first time and you’re cradling your phone, praying they’ll know you want them to call back. Or you’ve slammed a door and you hope they’re waiting on the other side figuring out the perfect words to transform the emotions inside you from anger and hurt to comfort and passion.
Relationships are not a destination. They’re not an end-point. They’re always a journey. They should always be challenging and growing and evolving.